May132013
This was such a fantastic weekend, despite the glaring failure staring at us. Things change so fast and I can tell your mind is starting to move from just dating to something more serious. And that’s good…but mine is taking some time to catch up. I think I’m terrified of giving in and then having my heart smashed again. I’m terrified of making the wrong choice, because my feelings change so often and so quickly. And, clearly, we both need serious commitments to daily times with God and spending time in the Word together. I’m not yet a Proverbs 31 wife, and you are not spiritually healthy enough to lead me or a family. 
You make me so incredibly happy, but I swear that this time, I won’t lose my head. I won’t let us make promises that neither one of us are mature enough to keep.

This was such a fantastic weekend, despite the glaring failure staring at us. Things change so fast and I can tell your mind is starting to move from just dating to something more serious. And that’s good…but mine is taking some time to catch up. I think I’m terrified of giving in and then having my heart smashed again. I’m terrified of making the wrong choice, because my feelings change so often and so quickly. And, clearly, we both need serious commitments to daily times with God and spending time in the Word together. I’m not yet a Proverbs 31 wife, and you are not spiritually healthy enough to lead me or a family. 

You make me so incredibly happy, but I swear that this time, I won’t lose my head. I won’t let us make promises that neither one of us are mature enough to keep.

(Source: nallelyt)

May12013

Making up after a fight is a lot harder when that person lives five hours away.

March302013

Friends

You walked up and waved with a smile on your face.

(We are not friends.)

You had to have sensed the tension, because you kept awkwardly looking over your shoulder at me.

“Have a happy Easter!” you exclaimed.

I didn’t respond.

(We are not friends.)

You prance away, looking too dainty, and skinny and put-togther.

I wonder as you pull out your phone if you’re about to text him.

(We are not friends)

You showed up, uninvited to his birthday party, and then looked shocked and guilty when I walked in the door.

(We are not friends.)

You text him at one in the morning to invite him to come out to the bars with you.

(We are not friends.)

You found him at his lowest point and exploited that for your own game.

(We are not friends.)

You manipulated him.

(We are not friends.)

You used him.

(We are not friends)

This may come as a shock, but regardless of what Facebook has said about us since spring of 2009. You and I…we are not friends.

March222013

I am incredibly sad.

I’ve kept myself busy this week with homework and projects and exit exams…and now it’s finally hitting me. You’re leaving tomorrow.

I won’t be able to drive to your house after work at make food with you anymore. We won’t be able to go out to eat with friends on a Tuesday night anymore. No more mini-road trips to Salem to see my friends. You won’t drop by while I’m at work just to say hi. I won’t be able to fall asleep on the couch with you while watching movies and miss my Thursday afternoon class. You will be 5 hours away, and all that I will have of you are a couple hoodies, a photo, and whatever pixilated images and text that technology can give us.

It all seems so cold. So hard. Distance is cold and hard. I hope it won’t be too long before I get to feel the warmth of your arms and the softness of your hands again. Until then, I just wish I could stop crying.

I will miss you dearly, best friend.

January232013

Is this me giving up?

It’s both terrifying and relieving. It terrifies me because I truly felt like I might have found someone I could spend my life with….at least, who he was in the beginning. It’s relieving, however, to not stress about him not texting back or about what girls are posting on his Facebook.

I’m just so sick of this roller coaster. One day he’s madly in love and the next I won’t even get a hello when I walk through his door. I can’t do this anymore. I can’t love him anymore. I’m constantly a wreck, except for the few occasions that he acts like he wants to be with me. I want things to change. I want the man that I fell for back, but a part of me fears that he was never there to begin with.

I want to wake up tomorrow and have the old him back. I want this dream-turned-nightmare to end…and don’t really care how it ends as of late. I don’t want us to end, but I feel my heart already starting to distance itself. It’s starting to shut down and I’m starting to see him as a part of my past than my future.

I am so scared.

January132013
January122013

But I always knew you’d be the one to understand me,
I guess that’s why it took so long to get things right.
Suddenly I’m lost
On my street
On my block

Oh why, Oh why
Oh why haven’t you been there for me?
Can’t you see, I’m losing my mind this time?
This time I think it’s for real, I can see

All the tree tops turning red
The beggars near bodegas grin at me
I think they want something
I close my eyes, I tell myself to breathe

And be calm.

December312012

Two thousand and twelve recap.

I’ve been doing one of these for the past four years. I like to be able to look back on what I thought and felt. Memories fade too easily, and life goes by too quickly. Keeping a record is the only way I know how to slow that process down.

Twenty-twelve started out quite interestingly. Christmas break marked a bit of a backslide in my faith (as winter and summer breaks have been since I started college…don’t ask me why). I had been doing some stupid things, but that is simply how I operate, and I think God has grace for my rebellious little cycles.

I remember knowing that things were going to change on New Year’s Eve. I was sitting at my desk, getting ready for a friend’s party when my phone rang. I had desperately been praying and looking for a job, and I had had a couple interviews but with no luck. I put in an application at Walmart a month earlier and forgotten about it. Lo and behold, it was one of the co-managers of Marion Walmart asking if I could come in for an interview on Tuesday. I glady told him yes. 

That night went on to become one of the best parties I have ever attended. It is a night that will never be forgotten by me, and a week that will live in infamy within my circle of friends. I was just talking to someone about it a couple nights ago. Needless to say, the year started out on a great foot.

Two weeks later, I was working at Walmart. A steady income was the answer to my prayers. However, I didn’t know that Walmart would also be the answer to something else I’d been praying about. Within a week of working there, a young man came up to me when I was leaving break. He introduced himself as Caleb, and said he’d seen me around campus. I remember wanting to ask him if he had fake contacts in, because his eyes were absolutely incredible. I forgot about it shortly after. A couple days later, he added me on Facebook. After a couple months of borderline stalking, getting my number and texting me incessantly, I agreed to go to dinner with him.

Surprisingly enough, he was completely enthralling. Charming, intelligent, and had a good handle on his Bible stories (=P). By June, we were officially dating, and I was falling. God had truly blessed me.

The summer was full of swimming pools, late night meals, deep talks on friend’s porches. I grilled out almost every week and made the best chicken I’ve ever tasted. I bought an acoustic guitar and jammed out in my apartment. I took the dreadful test called the GRE.

The fall semester was stressful, but rewarding. I did well in my classes, completed a senior thesis, and applied to grad schools. I talked about marriage….and then ran at break neck speed away from the topic, with both parties agreeing not to talk about it again until after I finished my master’s. But regardless, I was beginning to set up my future.

2012 has finally been a good year after three very, very rough ones. I can finally say that I’ve “gotten out of the desert and into the sun” (Gotta love The Format). So, that’s the song for this year. This year I experienced love again, happiness, wealth (as much as I personally ever have, at least), and the strange combination of excitement and crippling fear the adulthood brings.

May 2013 be filled with more love, joy, praises to God, friendship, trials and successes. Many things will change this coming year, but to those of you whom I love and have been with me through it all, I promise that you will be kept close. You are my family.

Happy New Year!

November152012
1AM

The Sea

I awake to find your arm still outstretched,

unfaltering, unmovable, ever there to pull me in.

A subconscious olive branch, accepting of

all my faults, failures and character flaws.

All my jealousy, and preoccupation with the past.

All my unfounded, hurtful statements,

and my thinly veiled disapproval of your friends.

These and more, all absorbed, consumed,

and tossed into the sea.

This ocean carries me to you.

The tide ebbs to and fro, but the undertow

ultimately pulls my arm across your chest.

My own peace treaty.

A promise to forget your past, and trust you in the present.

To bear your burdens and be patient with your growth.

And to love on days when I’d rather be bitter

about where we’ve been.

In this moment, all things are right,

and there swells hope to be greater than

what we’ve known before.

God willing.

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